I was reading US magazine on the elliptical today at the gym, and again, saw a story about Jillian Harris (the bachelorette) and her bachelor of choice, Ed Swiderski. The week before I had been reading another article about the twosome: an expose detailing Ed’s infidelity with two other women while he was dating Harris.
The detailed texts and emails that the two cheated upon women provided to US magazine were blatant evidence that this man was definitely having sexual engagements with, and even professing love, to women besides the one that he had proposed to on TV. On top of it all, some of the emails he sent to the other women were vulgar, crass, and sexual.
This wasn’t the first time that I heard that a number of the bachelors on the show had come on the show with girlfriends at home- and as actress I would be lying if I didn’t tell you that breakdowns for reality shows don’t come through our casting networks all the time. Why do you think everyone is so gosh darn beautiful?
SO it’s not hard to believe that Mr. Swiderski came on the show for very ulterior motives than “finding his true love.” Instant fame is not exactly a bad deal, with or without a new wife attached.
Anyway, the article this week said that Ms. Harris had decided to stay with Mr. Swiderski despite the the blatant evidence that this man is a total deuchebag.
She also disparaged the “other” women, saying that they were lying and that their feeble attempts to get Ed back (bc that is so obviously what they were doing) made them look foolish.
This is not the first time that I have witnessed a man who cheats on his significant other, but yet when the woman finds out, she blames the “other woman” instead of confronting the man or breaking up with him (I mean, helllooo).
What is the deal with this? Are women so attached to their men and “blinded by love” as the phrase says that they can’t recognize the seriousness of infidelity and where the blame actually lies?
Many times , the girl who fools around with the unavailable man may not even know that he is unavailable. Also, it is the man’s decision as much as the girl’s to engage in sexual activity together, if not moreso, as men typically seduce the women.
So what is the deal with this?